We've all felt the love. There is a little puppy love our time. There is love of playing games during school. There is also a serious love when we get older. We have experienced many kinds of love, but what about forbidden love?
For those who have experienced, must have felt this kind of love even more special. Forbidden love usually happens when our relationship was opposed by parents, friends or society. Ironically, the parent forbid the relationship, the harder our efforts to continue the relationship. This phenomenon is known as Romeo and Juliet effect.
Romeo and Juliet were lovers from two feuding families. Although they both love each other, but their relationship challenged severely by their families. However Romeo and Juliet remains a relationship secretly. The story ends tragically when swallowing poison Romeo and Juliet commit suicide, which ultimately united by their love of death.
If their families get along and their relationship blessed, may the love that arises between Romeo and Juliet would not be that big. This can be explained psychologically. As humans, we want to be personally independent. Spaces determine the option to own. We do not want to be controlled by others. So when "freedom" is threatened, we will try to retake that we feel as an autonomous individual, free to choose.
In the case of romance, the prohibition of the other party is a threat to "freedom" we. As a result we rebelled. We want to feel that we are in control. The more parent against, meaning the greater threat and consequently the greater our efforts to win freedom - by continuing "illicit relationship" with him. When we do this, we feel more affection with a partner. It is a cycle:
Anybody want to share?
For those who have experienced, must have felt this kind of love even more special. Forbidden love usually happens when our relationship was opposed by parents, friends or society. Ironically, the parent forbid the relationship, the harder our efforts to continue the relationship. This phenomenon is known as Romeo and Juliet effect.
Romeo and Juliet were lovers from two feuding families. Although they both love each other, but their relationship challenged severely by their families. However Romeo and Juliet remains a relationship secretly. The story ends tragically when swallowing poison Romeo and Juliet commit suicide, which ultimately united by their love of death.
If their families get along and their relationship blessed, may the love that arises between Romeo and Juliet would not be that big. This can be explained psychologically. As humans, we want to be personally independent. Spaces determine the option to own. We do not want to be controlled by others. So when "freedom" is threatened, we will try to retake that we feel as an autonomous individual, free to choose.
In the case of romance, the prohibition of the other party is a threat to "freedom" we. As a result we rebelled. We want to feel that we are in control. The more parent against, meaning the greater threat and consequently the greater our efforts to win freedom - by continuing "illicit relationship" with him. When we do this, we feel more affection with a partner. It is a cycle:
- Parents opposed.
- As a result, we feel constrained, feel our freedom taken away.
- We want to feel independent. So what should we do?
- Give more love to her lover; show the parent that they can not win our freedom.
- With the act of "giving love more", the unconscious feelings on girlfriend getting stronger.
- Return to step (1)
Anybody want to share?
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