Modal Love Is Not Enough To Marry

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Jakarta, Psychology Zone - Planning a wedding is a noble thing, but suffice only with love? According to psychologist Ruth Abraham, marriage relationship is not enough just to have capital of love. He said the assumption that love is enough to establish a domestic relationship can be very misleading. When couples know that their relationship capital only love, it should not proceed too deep.
Ruth suggested first aspect to consider when getting married is common sense. Emotions of love needs to be harmonized with rational common sense.
"Ih mad not callous, not so. But common sense should be used really. Especially marriage. The marriage was common sense must also be the way, is not made to eat a feeling, "he explained in an office park Aries, Kembangan, West Jakarta, Monday (05/07/2012).
Why not be feeling the only capital in the marriage? According to Ruth, the feeling may only last a while and are just common sense to save my marriage.
"If common sense does not continue to be used only guess aja, keep taste fades, like doing it," said Director of Personal Growth.
Aspects other than common sense when considering getting married is stability. This aspect can include many things. The first can be stability in terms of food, clothing, and shelter, not just love.
"Love's enough for us to have each other there in the song that just wrote. If you do not eat, will not fit, the brain is also not the way, is also not working, "said psychologist graduated from University of Indonesia.
He saw many marriages actually end up with instability clothing, food and shelter. "Dispersal hungry because it turns out really bad," he said.
According to him, the couple also must not forget that the wedding will be blessed establish child . Accompanying each child's development certainly is not just capitalize enough love.
"Indeed, the children could be fed by the father or mother's life were in love? Her father must have common sense, so know how to be responsible to provide for their children a decent life, "he said. (Sec / mba)